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Showing posts with label 41 years of marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 41 years of marriage. Show all posts

Saturday, March 26, 2011

For ever, for always and no matter what......

Hello my dears...
Today is a beautiful day here.  Windy and cool but Spring like...
Did you know that 41 years ago today at 7 p.m. Terry and I said "I do!"

As I sit here today I am wondering where the years have flown.. People say that phrase all the time but until lately I did not realize that time really does fly:)

Terry and I started out together when I was only 17 and he was 20.  I was a girl who had turned away from God. I used to blame everything and everyone else but the fact of the matter is that I quit praying and putting God first in my life.  I started down the broad path... 
I had accepted Jesus into my heart as a 9 year old child and was baptized in His Name and filled with His Spirit...
Terry had an experience with God as a child but had also turned away.
 
Really, when we met we were totally different.
Two different personalities, two different faiths, two different lifestyles.
But in there somewhere was a mutual attraction that led to love. 
We both made choices that had consequences.. We were married very young and soon had two children and life got kind of complicated.  There were bills and children and parties..
Things went from bad to worse..

 God is the glue in a good marriage and in those first few years we did not have any glue.. Things almost fell apart in our fourth year.  It was then that we realized that we did not have just ourselves to consider .. We had two innocent children who did not ask to come into this world.  They deserved their parents together... Loving and living.. 

So we made a commitment to try and fix things on our own... Every Friday night we sat it aside for DATE NIGHT..Slowly, we were trying to mend two broken hearts and two broken dreams..Working and striving together to make it work..

Then in 1975 Terry and I were on a date night.  We always went to get our groceries and then we would usually go to a movie or bowling or such.  On that particular night I had forgotten to look up the movie that we had wanted to see.  I found a phone and called our babysitter who happened to be Terry's sister to ask her to check the paper.  When she answered she told me that my sister and her husband had come down to stay overnite.. We were glad and said we would be right home.
  
On the way home we topped the hill near Marr Road in the St. John area when just ahead of us a car turning onto the Marr Road hit an incoming one head on... 
We quickly parked along the side of the road and ran to see if we could help.. 
Five people lost their lives that night.  A baby was crying amid the groceries and a dear wee boy about the same age as our daughter was screaming sitting between his mother and older brother who were gone... 
Walking around and wringing my hands I soon realizd that Life was precious and that I was lost.  I KNEW that if it had have been us then we would have been in eternity without God...

Our life changed that night.. On the way home Terry and I talked and decided that we were on the wrong road.  That night I literally cried all night long.  We made up our minds to yield our lives back to the Lord... 

I was working at a very good job with other girls at the hospital in St. John.  On Monday, I told them what had happened and that I was giving my life back to God and that Terry and I were going back to church on Sunday... They laughed and said that I had better get my sinning all done that week.  But do you know what? I didn't feel like sinning anymore.  I had given my life back to the One who had created it.. The following Sunday Terry and I and our two sweet children went to church.  God had met us that night but we made a commitment that Sunday and put Christ back in our lives where He belonged. 

Down through the years not everything has been perfect... Times when we could have slammed the door .... Times of grief and discouragment.  Times when the stresses of life were heavy.. But you know that Jesus made the difference.  He became the glue...He remained faithful.. He has answered so many prayers..I cannot imagine my life without God or without Terry.  I pray we have many more years together...
  
Jesus has blessed us with a wonderful family. Several years later God blessed us with another child.  And then there were three.  We now have 5 grandsons who also love the Lord.. God is good...
  
Today, there are so many things out there for couples to embrace.  Some see Hollywood and think that their marriage doesn't quite cut it and they look for something more to satisfy the longings of their hearts.  But when the rubber meets the road, girls only Jesus can satisfy.  You may get another relationship but some day when all is said and done the marriage you started out in is the Will of God.. Strive to make it work.  Consider your children and then consider eternity..I know that some marriages today fail and sadly there seems to be no solution.. It takes two to work on a marriage.. But you will find that Jesus is the answer..When all else fails and you cannot fix it then  you can depend on Him to get you through your situation...Just lean on Him...


Well, sweet ladies.. for another time this week I find myself sharing my heart.
Next week I will give you some neat recipes and stuff..ok?

Thanks so much for stopping by and I look forward to hearing your thoughts...


Love to you all....